A reminder to keep it simple & to focus on the minimum effective dose (quantity)

I am currently re-reading both “The 4-hour work week” and “The 4-hour body” (both by Tim Ferriss), and am reminded that I (we) regularly over-complicate our lives and waste a lot of our time focussing on the 80%-97.5% of things that ultimately will make very-little-if-any difference to our lives and to having or doing the things we want.

Our old paradigm of “work hard”, “put in the hours”, “do more” and being busy, are not necessarily serving us – but most of us, including myself, don’t regularly pause and restructure for greatest benefit.

Tim reminds us that in most things in life, as per Pareto’s principle, the 2.5%-20% we put in, can-and-will produce 80%-97.5% of the results.  So if we focus on that Minimum Effective Dose (Quantity), we have time to do more of the things we want to do or achieve.  By way of example, knowing approximately 5% of the most frequently used words in a language can often allow us to understand as much of 95% of communication in that language, and can be achieved in a short amount of time.  Acquiring the other 5% could take a lifetime for very little additinal benefit.

Yesterday, I took myself through his Dreamlining exercise to re-state / re-establish what some of my Having, Being and Doing goals are and just what it would take to actualize these – it was a great reminder that one doesn’t need millions in the bank to have, experience and be all that we want.  By reducing everything to a monthly and daily income to achieve this, it becomes much more realistic.  I worked out that for around £1,000 per day, I can have pretty-much everything in my dreamlining list, including what some might consider an extravagant 2 hours of time flying jet aircraft every month (one of my childhood dreams and something I did for my 40th birthday) – and the best part is that many, many consultants earn way more than this per day (so it is actually achievable as long as we suspend self doubt and focus on the principles in the books.)

I also started on Occam’s protocol for physical training (from “The 4-hour Body”) – with the most challenging part being disciplined enough to suspend disbelief, apply the lessons and actually DO LESS than I would ordinarily do at the gym.  It felt strange walking in, completing my workout in less than 10 minutes, and walking out before all those that were in the gym before me with “That’s it?” expressions on their faces.  Or maybe it was just my projection.

Often considered to be two of the best life-hacking books around, they are well worth a read if you want to transform your work-life, financial situation, health & fitness or just generally have more time to focus on all the things you want to have, be or do. However, as Tim requests in the books, be sceptical WITH action (ie test it out with questions) – DON’T be sceptical with in-action.

Try it out for a month and see how you go.  As always, while I do love reading hard-copies, I recommend buying on Amazon Kindle and opt to Add Audible Narration (so you can interchange between reading and listening as desired or as necessary).  Enjoy!!

Links:

The 4-Hour Work Week: Escape the 9-5, Live Anywhere and Join the New Rich

The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-loss, Incredible Sex and Becoming Superhuman

My New Career, Business & Finance Values (as at 05/March/2017)

Although I elicited these new Career, Business & Finance values back in March 2017 after transforming some previously limiting decisions and beliefs and doing some creative visualization, I am only now getting around to posting them on my site.

My New Career, Business & Finance values are:

  • Living my purpose
  • Doing what I love, what inspires me and what motivates me
  • Playing all-out
  • Dreaming Large – Big Dreams & Big Goals
  • Living my dreams / actualizing my dreams – turning them to reality
  • Inner Power & Inner Strength
  • “Shining” bright
  • Passion / on purpose
  • Energy (being “on fire”)
  • Resourcefullness
  • Innovation
  • Inspiration
  • Elevation
  • Friendship
  • Partnership
  • Trust
  • Faith
  • “Thrive”
  • Action
  • Humility
  • Humour
  • Joy
  • Fun
  • Fulfillment
  • “Enlightenment”
  • Bliss
  • Legacy (leaving a legacy)
  • Insight / insightfulness
  • Vision
  • Inventiveness
  • Determination
  • Perseverance

My New Relationship Values (4th of March, 2017)

My New Relationship Values (as at the 4th of March, 2017):

  • Love
  • Passion
  • Courage
  • Exhilaration
  • Joy
  • Laughter
  • Bliss
  • Knowingness
  • Wisdom
  • Purpose (Love is my purpose – being on purpose)
  • Liberation
  • Freedom (help others experience soul expression, doing what we love)
  • Fearlessness
  • Integrity
  • Connection
  • “Togetherness”
  • Time (together)
  • Presence
  • “Be the light.  Shine the light.”
  • Healing (if-and-where needed)
  • Forgiveness (“letting go”)
  • Sharing
  • Caring
  • Fulfillment

What are your Relationship Values and are you living them?

What are your most important values and are you currently living them?

Values are the things that are important to us and can be considered as ‘guiding principles’ for our lives in terms of what we prioritize on a day to day basis.

When many of us are asked to list our values, they are often times the values we believe we “should” have for ourselves – and when asked how often we truly live those values on a day to day basis, many of us realize we don’t, and that is what leaves us feeling ‘incongruent’ and ‘out of sorts’ as we are not being ‘true’.

Values are contextual (ie they differ with regard to different aspects of our lives) and the good news is what we can choose to change and re-prioritize them to best serve us.  For example, if someone has both “Security” and “Love” on their values list, can you imagine a difference in life choices and experience for someone who values Security above Love versus someone who values Love above Security?

There is also a possibility of a values-conflict – and so it is important to really consider the implications of your different values with respect to one another.

Check for yourself:

  1. Take a few minutes and consider your (current) values in the different areas of your life?  Write them down (in separate lists or as one whole list)
  2. Prioritize them in order of most important to least important to you.  (or at least your top 5-10 if you have listed many)
  3. Take note of how much you are living these top values on a day to day basis (currently in your life).

In a follow-up post, I will share with you ways in which you can shift these.

New Decision to “try on”: Love is our Natural State – our Purpose

Love is our Natural State – it is the essence of all things.  Love is our purpose – to love and be loved.

Love is my Natural State – it is my essence.  Love is my purpose – to love and be loved.

Try it on for yourself.

For how to transform your own previously limiting decisions & beliefs, see my post Removing Limiting Decisions and Beliefs

For other decisions & beliefs to “try on” visit the Decisions and Beliefs category on my blog.

New Decision to “try on”: Relationships are a blessing

As per my previous post on New Decisions, in a recent “Decision Destroyer”** process, I transformed a previously limiting decision & belief that was holding me back.  ‘Try it on’ for yourself:

Relationships exponentially multiply the joy, fun, laughter, love and adventure we have in life.  They are the greatest gift we could have/receive – to love, be loved, and spend time together.  Relationships are a blessing – a gift.  Thank you!

If you’ve not tried to transform previous decisions or beliefs, see my previous post on Removing Limiting Decisions & Limiting Beliefs.

Enjoy!!

**”Decision Destroyer” is a process in Christopher Howard’s “Your Personal Breakthrough” program

Using Song Lyrics for empowering decisions and beliefs

Whether you sing at the top of your lungs and dance with full expression or merely listen along, songs have the ability to impact our immediate mood as well as our outlook and our beliefs in life.

If you have had some experience with NLP, Hypnosis, Neuro-Associative Conditioning (NAC – Tony Robbins), other modalities or simply think about it logically, positive, empowering and creative words and phrases in music have the ability to empower us (while negative, disempowering and destructive words and phrases have the ability to disempower us) on a deep, on-going level.

They can form the basis of many of our decisions and beliefs about ourselves, about life, men and women, money, etc.

In the same way we feed our body nourishing food to get the best out of it, we need to nourish our minds to get the best out of it.

As such I strongly suggest being clear on the songs, words and phrases you repeatedly listen to, weed out those that don’t empower you and re-interpret those that may be mostly positive but with some limitations. (ie decide for yourself on some of the meaning)

With that in mind, there are a number of songs I will recommend you singing out loud to and physically expressing (whether in dance or posture), starting with the chorus of Robbie Williams’ “I love my life”.

When you “try it on” (with any empowering song), let any emotion be there that needs to be there. For myself, I feel empowered in general and at times in the past I cried – I felt that in some areas I was living up to the words and in others not (but always progressing on the journey).

In some cases the tears that come may be tears of ‘overwhelm’ (of the sheer power of the feelings or emotions) – possibly even our fear at being all these things [that we are singing].  As Marianne Williamson said “Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us”

However, back to NLP, NAC, Hypnosis, and other modalities, repeating the song(s) with FULL expression in mind, voice and action is part of state management. And if we are managing our state to be “I love my life”, we are better set to welcome abundance into it. Love is our natural state, clear of all conditioning – I can think of no better state to be in than love.

As with many decisions and beliefs we always have to stay mindful of when they empower and serve us and at which point they no-longer empower and serve us – and then transform them to- or replace them with- new decisions and beliefs. (ie even if you choose to embrace them now, reflect on them again later on your journey)

Enjoy!!

Removing Limiting decisions and limiting beliefs

In my most recent listening of Christopher Howard’s “Your Personal Breakthrough” I was reminded that decisions precede beliefs – we decide what something means and what we are going to believe, then we hold that belief.

Limiting decisions (and the subsequent limiting beliefs) hold us back from our true selves, our true nature and the highest & best life we can live.

Many of these decisions and beliefs were “handed” to us by parents, teachers, friends, society, the media and so on.  Neither they nor ourselves are to blame, but it is now our responsibility to identify and decide consciously for ourselves what new decisions to make and what new beliefs to hold. (and be open and willing to change those again if-and-when they too begin to limit us)

Christopher Howard’s “Decision Destroyer” (in the “Your Personal Breakthrough” pack) offers a somewhat more vivid, experiential and complete process than I have undergone before – with many of the essential components being common with other processes I’ve undergone.  If you have a chance to use the program, I’m sure you would benefit greatly from it.

Here is my summary interpretation of it with some deviation from my own preferred practice and my experience going through some Paul McKenna processes:

  1. Ask yourself what limiting decisions or beliefs you have (in a particular area of your life) that holds you back from having what you truly want
  2. Identify the most limiting 2-3 decisions or beliefs – that if changed would significantly change the outcomes you experience
  3. Once you have identified your 2-3 most limiting beliefs (about yourself, men/women, life, money, etc), select the most limiting decision for the rest of the process
  4. Go back in time (in your mind) to the time you made the decision and see & feel what is going on for you at the time.  It may not be all that clear but just allow yourself to experience it as much as possible.  See what you need to see, hear what you need to hear and feel what you need to feel.
  5. Look for the positive meaning and lessons (ie those that empower you and will ‘set you free’)
  6. Go back to just before the original incident / time where the decision was made and make a new, empowering decision based on the positive meaning and lessons
  7. Re-live the incident / time in your mind, but now with the new decision / belief and see how differently things unfold
  8. Finally, write down your new decision and repeat it regularly in the days and weeks to come

For the other 1-2 most limiting decisions or beliefs, repeat steps 4 – 8.

Removing limiting decisions / beliefs is one of the most liberating exercises I’ve undergone.

Enjoy your new freedom!!!